tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36983871.post8606708618888888128..comments2023-04-13T02:35:37.554-07:00Comments on Four Plus Four Equals Ten: What To Say?Triciahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14581392888793642746noreply@blogger.comBlogger15125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36983871.post-76396277698177667822007-09-12T10:10:00.000-07:002007-09-12T10:10:00.000-07:00To the commenter above (Jess, I believe it was) wh...To the commenter above (Jess, I believe it was) who attempted to equate a specific instance with her perceptions of an entire doctrine: please stop hating on fundamentalists. That is just as rude as Tricia's neighbor's comment and just as myopic and bigoted. Practice what you preach.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36983871.post-58814802105283651792007-09-10T20:27:00.000-07:002007-09-10T20:27:00.000-07:00Go Cole, Go Cole, Go Cole...in a sing songy voice....Go Cole, Go Cole, Go Cole...in a sing songy voice... I wanna watch the fight! ;)Triciahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14581392888793642746noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36983871.post-41354222448408952762007-09-10T19:28:00.000-07:002007-09-10T19:28:00.000-07:00Yes, she is funny that individual gal but now I m...Yes, she is funny that individual gal but now I must beat her with something heavy and sticky because NO ONE takes my title away. I won. So shut up. Yea, shut up. <BR/><BR/>I love the internet smack down. Bring it. You can't talk about everything you psycho-therapist. Sometimes you gotta put your money where your mouth is. Pony up.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36983871.post-39823110178027145192007-09-09T18:04:00.000-07:002007-09-09T18:04:00.000-07:00Beth- I'm not so good at the silence thing, so I d...Beth- I'm not so good at the silence thing, so I don't think that will work well for me, but also not a bad idea.<BR/><BR/>Individual- Um, yea, obviously! :)Triciahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14581392888793642746noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36983871.post-49452058964888784732007-09-09T17:50:00.000-07:002007-09-09T17:50:00.000-07:00I help people of all ages with comebacks all day. ...I help people of all ages with comebacks all day. It's my profession.xhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17866348942612559536noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36983871.post-42942668098759753042007-09-09T17:15:00.000-07:002007-09-09T17:15:00.000-07:00Just another suggestion, not nearly as much fun as...Just another suggestion, not nearly as much fun as some of the others. I don't have the reference handy but I know Miss Manners suggests a few long moments of stony silence, with a look that says (without any words at all) 'I am completely shocked.') Then you end the conversation politely, but not warmly. I've tried this and found it medium satisfying.Bethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09537772630553572266noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36983871.post-57335205744984552092007-09-09T15:59:00.000-07:002007-09-09T15:59:00.000-07:00Cole-Sorry... maybe 2nd place only because I can a...Cole-<BR/>Sorry... maybe 2nd place only because I can actually say what Individual suggested :) <BR/><BR/>And we have a new winner!!! Individual to the podium, please!Triciahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14581392888793642746noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36983871.post-54207092731406295512007-09-09T15:39:00.000-07:002007-09-09T15:39:00.000-07:00Cole, you are on such a roll! You really need to s...Cole, you are on such a roll! You really need to start posting again. As a Jewish psychotherapist, might I also add to Cole's brilliant suggestions the possibility of a passive-aggressive approach? Keep asking them to repeat it. "I'm sorry, I'm not familiar with that term. What did you say? I never heard that before. What is that supposed to mean? I don't get it? Could you explain it? Is that English? Oh, my, that seems so offensive, when you think about it, doesn't it? That's really terrible, like Muslimed you down, or Christianed you down, or Mormoned you down....xhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17866348942612559536noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36983871.post-61644539350394874412007-09-09T09:22:00.000-07:002007-09-09T09:22:00.000-07:00Ding, ding, ding, ding, Cole, you win! Made me lau...Ding, ding, ding, ding, Cole, you win! Made me laugh hard! If only I could be so quick and witty! <BR/><BR/>I have found that adding some humor actually does help in these type of situations... Speaking of sexual favors, can you imagine how they talk about us around the dinner table???<BR/>Yeesh!Triciahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14581392888793642746noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36983871.post-40783105003961630502007-09-09T08:10:00.000-07:002007-09-09T08:10:00.000-07:00Wow.Yea. What do you say to that? Maybe, "Wow, I d...Wow.<BR/><BR/>Yea. What do you say to that? Maybe, "Wow, I didn't know they were jewish...what temple do they go to?" <BR/><BR/>or, "Yea, well white bitches like us don't need old junk anyway so it is good to purge."<BR/><BR/>or, "WOW, I didn't know you were a KKK member. Cool. We should talk over coffee and cross burnings some time. Oh, and hey, I might be going to a graveyard to deface some tombstones later, wanna come?"<BR/><BR/>or, "Seriously? Jewed you down, huh? Well, I had bought I might have wanted to trade lesbian sexual favors so maybe you made out in the deal?"<BR/><BR/>Or, "I am going to move away from you know, because lightening is about to strke you."<BR/>\<BR/><BR/>xxAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36983871.post-14754175751089611842007-09-08T23:03:00.000-07:002007-09-08T23:03:00.000-07:00Sometimes I'll pick something about them to be sim...Sometimes I'll pick something about them to be similarly racist/sexist/whateverist about and let it rip.<BR/><BR/>not terribly mature...but it usually gets the point across.<BR/><BR/>And other times I'm speechless myself and ponder the same as you. <BR/><BR/>I suppose the best thing might be to mention to her that you've been thinking about what she said, wanted to mention it to her, since she might not be aware of what she said and it's anti-semitic meaning. To get her to think about it...and know that it meant something. Duh.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36983871.post-7690322602477139312007-09-08T17:47:00.000-07:002007-09-08T17:47:00.000-07:00Jess-I guess that's another good point. If it come...Jess-<BR/>I guess that's another good point. If it comes up again and I say something and she is offended, well.."not a big loss".Triciahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14581392888793642746noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36983871.post-33638000964993569262007-09-08T15:37:00.000-07:002007-09-08T15:37:00.000-07:00Ugghhh. That sucks--especially when it is a neigh...Ugghhh. That sucks--especially when it is a neighbor, which means you have to see them on a regular basis and want to maintain a cordial relationship.<BR/><BR/>I once told a very, very well-intentioned neighbor/acquaintence exactly what I thought of missionaries who go sell the scripture to starving people in third world countries. She was a member of some holy roller church and wanted me to meet her missionary friends later in the week. They were only go to be in town for a few days before they went back to peddling their racist, sexist dogma overseas. She thought that I would love them because I had done such a "selfless" thing by "saving a child" (her words, of course). Please! <BR/><BR/>I tried to be nice about it, but I told her, unequivicably what I thought about fundamentalism and missionaries. She was such a sweet gal, I hated to cause friction, but I just hate self-righteous bs of fundamentalists. <BR/><BR/>We never spoke again.<BR/><BR/>Oh well. Not a big loss.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36983871.post-73813796670725303892007-09-08T10:40:00.000-07:002007-09-08T10:40:00.000-07:00Lelo- Yeah, it's that whole "i don'tknow you very ...Lelo- Yeah, it's that whole "i don't<BR/>know you very well and am not really invested in our relationship so should I let you know that comment was offensive and rude...or let you go on your merry way..." <BR/><BR/>With people I know, I have said simply "that sounds really racist" I suppose could do the same thing... although I like your seuggestion.Triciahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14581392888793642746noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36983871.post-29359776839859803912007-09-08T08:00:00.000-07:002007-09-08T08:00:00.000-07:00Ah ha! I hate moments like this where I often do t...Ah ha! I hate moments like this where I often do the same thing you did. Shocked you don't say anything. I think the moment has come and gone, really. But next time, you're prepared to just call them on it and share your shock...."You didn't REALLY just say that did you?!" and then have a conversation about it. Bah, I hate that stuff too!LeLohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15073317400749817075noreply@blogger.com